"Your arm is so small, let me switch to the smaller needle"
"Oh good... yes. Please do that."
As she is switching the needles, she says "Well honey, is your baby just sucking you DRY?"
I didn't realize what exactly she meant. "Uhhh, I guess so...?"
"The same thing happened to my daughter when she was breastfeeding. She looked just terrible!!"
Silence. Awkward, awkward silence. I only stayed long enough to grab my band-aid and signed form, hoping the line of people behind me hadn't heard her humiliating comment.
I've told this story to some family and friends and we joked about how this nurse would for sure take home the Foot In Mouth Award. But truthfully? It stung.
Here's the worst part: I don't think it ever even occurred to her what conclusion I must be drawing about my own appearance based on her comment. Did she mean to hurt my feelings? I'm sure she didn't. But this is just one of so many body remarks I've received since having my baby. And I know I'm not the only one. I've been on all sides of these remarks and I've learned one thing:
We can't win.